Fighting toxic masculinity and empowering compassion: A community in unity
Have you heard about Adolescence? If not, you're likely one of the few. This Netflix series quickly skyrocketed to the top peoples watch list, leaving an undeniable impact on viewers everywhere. It’s not just a captivating show in terms of how it was made; it’s a powerful, eye-opening look at the world our children and young people are growing up in today. But beyond the gripping storyline, Adolescence has shone a spotlight on a dark corner of the internet that many haven’t been aware of and stirred hearts to see long-lasting and positive change.
The series follows a 13-year-old boy who is charged with murder, diving into the toxic worlds of cyberbullying, online abuse, and the dark corners of the internet, including the toxic “manosphere.” It brings to light the frightening reality of how much time our young people spend online, exploring a space that can be both exhilarating and, unfortunately, harmful. As writer Jack Thorne puts it, "Role models obviously can have a huge impact on people. But truthfully, we've got to change the culture that they're consuming."
In a world where negative voices often drown out positivity, the work that we as SAMS are doing is more essential than ever. We’re creating real change by supporting children and young people, who are living in a world filled with harmful messages of fake success and toxic masculinity as well as many other cultural issues.
Right here in our own community, in Tadley and the surrounding villages, we’re starting to see real transformation. We’re empowering the next generation, one that is learning the value of compassion, kindness, and healthy relationships. By providing emotional and mental well-being support and working closely with local schools, churches, and community hubs, SAMS is helping break cycles of poverty and shaping a culture that uplifts and inspires.
Imagine a community where every child is learning about compassion—understanding why it matters and practicing it every day. That vision is becoming a reality. Right now, four primary schools in Tadley are leading the charge, with both children and staff coming together to create a cultural shift and challenge the toxic norms that Adolescence has brought to light.
The partnership between SAMS and Tadley Men’s Shed is a perfect example of how we can change the narrative for young boys. Every week, primary school students are joining the men at the Shed, learning valuable life skills while spending time with positive male role models. These aren’t just any skills—they’re about building character, resilience, and the kind of meaningful relationships that stand in direct opposition to the harmful messages about masculinity that often dominate the conversation.
One of the most inspiring examples of this impact is the collaboration between SAMS and Tadley Men’s Shed. A local primary school is taking groups of students there weekly to work alongside men in the community. The results have been incredible. Students are learning valuable life skills, from problem-solving and resilience to building meaningful friendships across generations.
Boys are learning that being a man isn’t about suppressing emotions or toughening up—it’s about connection, vulnerability, and trust.
They’re seeing first-hand that building relationships takes time and effort and that real friendships are based on mutual respect and shared experiences.
They’re developing problem-solving skills and resilience, learning how to face challenges with a clear mind and a compassionate heart.
They’re discovering the power of community, and the importance of supporting one another through both struggles and triumphs.
These lessons are critical in fighting against the dangerous culture of toxic masculinity that often teaches young men to isolate themselves, suppress their emotions, and act out of fear and insecurity. The Men’s Shed is actively working to rewrite that narrative—one where compassion, kindness, and emotional connection are just as valuable as strength and independence.
The ripple effect of this work goes far beyond just the students involved. By supporting healthy male relationships and encouraging open conversations about mental health and emotions, the Men’s Shed is not just challenging toxic masculinity—it’s helping to build a community that values emotional well-being for everyone.
SAMS is proud to see these transformations unfold. What’s happening in Tadley is more than just a series of positive changes—it’s a cultural shift that’s redefining what it means to be strong, kind, and compassionate. We’re creating a generation of young people who are not only resilient but who also understand the importance of community, connection, and compassion.
